Victims can be Victims of their own delustion

Individuals who habitually indulge in self-victimisation (also known as playing the victim) do so for various reasons: to control or influence other people’s thoughts, feelings and actions; to justify their abuse of others; to seek attention; or, as a way of coping with situations. Although they can actually change circumstances to avoid being victimised, they won’t seize the opportunity because they want to play the role and appear as victims to others and themselves. The main identifying traits of those who choose to play the victim role include:

 

• They tend to manipulate or abuse others verbally or physically, but then blame the other person (i.e. the real victim) for provoking the abuse.

• They influence or control other people’ sympathy to gain compassion or support.

• They form friendships or intimate relationships with those who disrespect, mistreat or abuse them to convince themselves and the world of their unfortunate status.

• They tend to avoid taking responsibility for their life, instead blaming others for their mistreatment or unfortunate circumstances.

• They think and talk a lot about how others take advantage of their kindness.

 

Negatives:

 

When in the company of the victim personality, be on the lookout for the following:

 

• Their crippling dependency on friends or co-workers for support and sympathy can be draining, and you cannot be sure if they actually appreciate your sympathetic responses and efforts.

• They can evoke anger and aggression in you, especially after you realise you have been duped into giving them sympathy when it should have gone to the real victim of their abuse.

• They instinctively draw out the caring, nurturing, and protective qualities in people, only to set them up for manipulation or abuse.

• Sometimes they will take extreme measures to get attention, like emptying a spouse’s bank account because they feel neglected or sending hate emails to themselves and then accusing others of sending them.

 

Positives:

 

There aren’t many positives to the victim personality, but two ways in which you might benefit from the victim are:

 

• They can make us feel important and valuable. Since they believe they are incapable of taking care of their own needs, they will always need your support with something.

• They long to be trustworthy and will make every effort to stick to their promises or complete any tasks you ask of them.

 

 

Do you Play the Victim?

 

You are playing the victim when you often:

 

• Justify your aggression against others by believing they deserve it.

• Refuse to take responsibility for your own happiness or misery – it’s the world that’s a bad place, and no one can truly be trusted.

• Find yourself in relationships where others mistreat you, so you can feel justified in your victim role.

• Nag, complain, harass, and beseech others until they give in to your demands.

• Commonly turn to the phrase, “You’re the only one who can help me.”

• Sometimes go to extremes to get revenge for perceived or actual abuse, like destroying your own property and falsely accusing someone else of being responsible.

• Provoking aggressive behaviour from others, but downplaying or ignoring your role in it.

• Feel anxious about the very idea that you can exert a positive influence over your own life without the support of others.

 

How do I Deal with a Victim?

 

Initially, it will feel good playing a part in their happiness and joy, but after a while, you will start to avoid their child-like dependency. When you do cut ties with them, they will feel victimised and the cycle will continue. Remember that self- victimisers play a role that has always worked for them. By empathically and consistently challenging them, as well as emphasising those non-victim aspects of them that you like, a victim can be helped to change. An example of empathically challenging a victim would be to ask a question that makes them reconsider their situation, such as, “You say he became aggressive. What happened just before he became aggressive?”  An example of valuing the non-victim traits of the individual include statements such as, “I like it when you show this positive attitude. It suits you.”

IF we were actually serious about recycling we would:

First, get over the idea that recycling is a zero sum game.  That you can make money on the end product of recycling.  It is a waste management issue and requires resources.  We pay to landfill and haul it away, if we are serious about recycling and we should be, land-filling that which should be recycled is not good waste management.

This isn't that hard if we are serious.. (of course we really aren't)

Metals, all metals are easy.  Aluminum, pot metal, steel and copper are easy to recycle.. you just have to capture, separate and melt down.

Glass  is easy.  Separate it by color.  Brown, Green, Blue, Clear and other (red and a few others).  Grind them to about 1" pieces.  Not fine grind, but small enough to be able later to load with a skid loader.  Pile the glass into stockpiles.  Let the piles "Rot". In two years or so this will happen.  As the glass sits under the sun, rain and heat any residue will disappear. Paper labels and such will rot awry.  At the end of this the glass is ready to be reused in creating new bottles.  No washing out is required.  The colored glass is the most valuable.  Recycled glass melt faster and at a lower temperature that making it from sand.  The cost of cleaning the glass is offset by stockpiling.

Rubber is useful in powering equipment that makes concrete.

Wood ground up is easy to process for many purposes.

 This leaves the big bugaboo.  What do we do with plastic waste?  Plastic melts without burning at a controlled temperature.  There is no need to separate the plastic.  I can be bulk melted.  Then the resultant clumps ground into large pieces.  Plastic can be pyrolized into oil products.  The reason to melt and grind it is to insure the automation of the pyrolosis process.  We have the natural gas in abundance to do the pyrolitic process.  The ground melted plastic can be stockpiled until moved to a pyrolosis plant.  There is also the use of the melted plastic to create products like plastic fence, plastic planks etc. 

None of this is impossible, it just won't cash flow.  Let's not pretend that it will.  Time to take action.

IF we were serious about Climate Change.. we would do what makes sense

I don't every take anyone seriously that believes that renewable resourses are an actual answer to our energy supply or climate change.

I don't actually believe that we have anything to do with the pace of intensity of change.  The climate always changes. 

However we are exploring alternative energy sources.  I'm for that.  Wind is a joke for electric power.  Germany has demonstrated that.  Solar panels are fine where the sun shines.  That leaves a LOT of people on the grid.  And it's not transportable.

You have to come up with a storage solution and it will never be as robust as your electrical entrance in your house.

There is only one single solution that stops the use of fossils, is reliable and if climate change is your thing, fully neutral. 

NUCLEAR POWER.  We should be building 500 large nuclear plants in the USA right now. 

Of course we won't.  Those who trumpet man made climate change aren't really serious about it.