Friday, June 26, 2015
Thursday, June 25, 2015
5 ways adult children hurt their parents without realizing it What are you doing to brighten the lives of your aging parents? Bringing a little light and happiness into their lives will leave a legacy of love your own children will emulate.
Most people love and appreciate their parents. We don't doubt that. The
problem is, parents can't tell this unless you show it by the way you
treat them. Sometimes adult children can bring heartache to their
parents without realizing what they're doing. We've boiled it down to
five main ways this happens. If you are a parent of adult children, you
may recognize some of these. If you're the adult child, you may be in
for an awakening. As parents age, their physical needs may change but
their need for your love never does.
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Tuesday, June 23, 2015
Some are just plain LOSERS
I was in Tennessee for a few days last week. Went to see some suppliers and customers. In the process I ran across a fellow who in any one's vernacular would be described as a loser. In our half hour conversation (one I had to walk away from) I got this tirade from him:
Everybody in the county has done him wrong. He felt abused. He was convinced he would never get a break.
He told me things I know full well were lies... absolute fiction. I know better. I knew the people he was talking about. When I tried to help him understand that the lies he bought into were just that, he became indignant.
He let me know in no uncertain terms that he knows better than anyone, but won't read a paper or watch or listen to news because it's all lies and conspiracy. He is intentionally ignorant and he chose that path willingly.
He carries deeps seated resentment against those around him who have done well. They didn't deserve it. They cheated somehow. It should all be taken from them.
He mentioned names of people who had "cheated" him somehow and how he will never ever talk to or do any business with them again.
He kept telling me how everything was so unfair to guys like him who "Work Hard" and don't get a break.
He had some trouble with the law (DUI) and had spent some time in the local jail. He is angry because there is no justice. They were picking on him.
I knew in talking to him that if I went certain places or questioned him, that he would go off on me.. so I kept quiet. He was very prickly.
He had all kinds of conspiracy theories about how the world is controlled by this or that entity. He told me that it was unconstitutional to pay taxes. How the money system was controlled by the Rothschilds (are any still alive?).
He claims to be a Christian, goes to church, but in a short time based on how he talked he is harboring sin in his life. He has great joy when harsh misfortune happens to other people.
He lives a meager existence created by the words of his mouth. He is about 50 years old and looks decades older. He is always going to be unhappy and feeling put upon by those he sees as the real power. He is a loser and loves his role as one. Yes, I said it, this guy relishes the pedestal on which he placed himself as the arbiter of all that is good and honorable. Except it's not.
I don't like him much, and I doubt many people do.
We used to say in the word of faith movement, "you have what you say".. and boy does he.
He has created his loser world and will go to his grave a loser.
There is no hope for people like this, they even think they have Jesus.
Everybody in the county has done him wrong. He felt abused. He was convinced he would never get a break.
He told me things I know full well were lies... absolute fiction. I know better. I knew the people he was talking about. When I tried to help him understand that the lies he bought into were just that, he became indignant.
He let me know in no uncertain terms that he knows better than anyone, but won't read a paper or watch or listen to news because it's all lies and conspiracy. He is intentionally ignorant and he chose that path willingly.
He carries deeps seated resentment against those around him who have done well. They didn't deserve it. They cheated somehow. It should all be taken from them.
He mentioned names of people who had "cheated" him somehow and how he will never ever talk to or do any business with them again.
He kept telling me how everything was so unfair to guys like him who "Work Hard" and don't get a break.
He had some trouble with the law (DUI) and had spent some time in the local jail. He is angry because there is no justice. They were picking on him.
I knew in talking to him that if I went certain places or questioned him, that he would go off on me.. so I kept quiet. He was very prickly.
He had all kinds of conspiracy theories about how the world is controlled by this or that entity. He told me that it was unconstitutional to pay taxes. How the money system was controlled by the Rothschilds (are any still alive?).
He claims to be a Christian, goes to church, but in a short time based on how he talked he is harboring sin in his life. He has great joy when harsh misfortune happens to other people.
He lives a meager existence created by the words of his mouth. He is about 50 years old and looks decades older. He is always going to be unhappy and feeling put upon by those he sees as the real power. He is a loser and loves his role as one. Yes, I said it, this guy relishes the pedestal on which he placed himself as the arbiter of all that is good and honorable. Except it's not.
I don't like him much, and I doubt many people do.
We used to say in the word of faith movement, "you have what you say".. and boy does he.
He has created his loser world and will go to his grave a loser.
There is no hope for people like this, they even think they have Jesus.
Demons at Work
Three groups of men were executed in three different ways.
The
official ISIS media wing released a new video Tuesday showing three
sets of executions that underscore the group’s intense and persistent
brutality
vocativ.com
Something doesn't line up here
Nashville
mayoral candidate Megan Barry has joined U.S. Congressman Jim Cooper
and Tennessee State House Democratic Leader Craig Fitzhugh in calling
for the bust of Ku Klux Klan founding leader Nathan Bedford Forrest to
be removed from the Tennessee state Capitol.
Nashville mayoral candidate Megan Barry has joined U.S. Congressman Jim Cooper and
www.newschannel9.com|By Sinclair Broadcast Group
In 1875, Forrest demonstrated his personal sentiments on the issue of race now differed from that of the Klan he had shunned, when he was invited to give a speech before an organization of black Southerners advocating racial reconciliation. He made what the New York Times described as a "friendly speech" during which, when offered a bouquet of flowers by a black woman, he accepted them as a token of reconciliation between the races and espoused a radically progressive (for the time) agenda of equality and harmony between black and white Americans. His speech was as follows:
"Ladies and Gentlemen I accept the flowers as a memento of reconciliation between the white and colored races of the southern states. I accept it more particularly as it comes from a colored lady, for if there is any one on God's earth who loves the ladies I believe it is myself. ( Immense applause and laughter.) This day is a day that is proud to me, having occupied the position that I did for the past twelve years, and been misunderstood by your race. This is the first opportunity I have had during that time to say that I am your friend. I am here a representative of the southern people, one more slandered and maligned than any man in the nation.
I will say to you and to the colored race that men who bore arms and followed the flag of the Confederacy are, with very few exceptions, your friends. I have an opportunity of saying what I have always felt - that I am your friend, for my interests are your interests, and your interests are my interests. We were born on the same soil, breathe the same air, and live in the same land. Why, then, can we not live as brothers? I will say that when the war broke out I felt it my duty to stand by my people. When the time came I did the best I could, and I don't believe I flickered. I came here with the jeers of some white people, who think that I am doing wrong. I believe that I can exert some influence, and do much to assist the people in strengthening fraternal relations, and shall do all in my power to bring about peace. It has always been my motto to elevate every man- to depress none. (Applause.) I want to elevate you to take positions in law offices, in stores, on farms, and wherever you are capable of going.
I have not said anything about politics today. I don't propose to say anything about politics. You have a right to elect whom you please; vote for the man you think best, and I think, when that is done, that you and I are freemen. Do as you consider right and honest in electing men for office. I did not come here to make you a long speech, although invited to do so by you. I am not much of a speaker, and my business prevented me from preparing myself. I came to meet you as friends, and welcome you to the white people. I want you to come nearer to us. When I can serve you I will do so. We have but one flag, one country; let us stand together. We may differ in color, but not in sentiment. Use your best judgement in selecting men for office and vote as you think right.
Many things have been said about me which are wrong, and which white and black persons here, who stood by me through the war, can contradict. I have been in the heat of battle when colored men, asked me to protect them. I have placed myself between them and the bullets of my men, and told them they should be kept unharmed. Go to work, be industrious, live honestly and act truly, and when you are oppressed I'll come to your relief. I thank you, ladies and gentlemen, for this opportunity you have afforded me to be with you, and to assure you that I am with you in heart and in hand.
http://chroniclingamerica.loc.gov/.../1875-07-06/ed-1/seq-1/
Memphis daily appeal. (Memphis, Tenn.) 1847-1886, July 06,...
chroniclingamerica.loc.gov
Monday, June 22, 2015
12 things I can do to deal with racism in America
Clearly there are a number of things I cannot do. I won't even try. I don't have the authority or power to deal with other people's attitudes and racism. The idea that I can affect change on a racist nation is without merit. I can only change me and those with whom I come in contact.
There are thing however I can do.. and will:
1. I will not be in the presence of out and out racists. Won't give quarter even in private to those who express such things. I will walk away from such conversation. I won't sanction racist attitudes when I see or hear them.
2. I will not be guilted into any action or endorsement that requires me to feel guilty about being me. I will grace the same offer to anyone and everyone. I will not allow a demon of guilt to possess me.
3. I will point out obvious forms of racial abuse, racial prejudice, racial misuse when I see it. Shaming is a clear way to kill racist action.
4. I will not leap on to every bandwagon that goes by disguising itself as racism or anti racism. Most of those are smoke and mirrors. Not everything that is called racism is. Some is just foolishness. Any effort to use money to try to level the inequity will be resisted. It's a band aid to impoverish more and helps no one.
5. I will be intentional in developing deeper genuine relationships with men and women with skin color different from mine. People who I love and who can love me. I have a start here, but love conquers sin and racism. That will be real when I can be real. Laugh, poke fun, cry with, tease, love, argue, forgive and treat them as I would my flesh and blood brother... and that can be brutal without the fear that it might be taken wrong.
6. I will not allow anger and disgust to put me off. I will hear, not agree, and try to help find real truth. Truth always lines up with reality. Facts are subjective and may not. Truth will be my focus. Truth sets people free.. and that's the goal.
7. I will face down blatant lies whenever I see them, those from the racists and those from those who are driven by trying to use racism as a reason for despair. The best thing I can do is to break the chains of lies that keep people in bondage.
8. I will expose the role indignation has in revealing guilt. Guilty people are always at first indignant. Racists and race hustler use indignation to try to keep people in bondage. I will be one who sets people free. Indignation will not be honored.
9. I will rebuke militant racists of all stripes. The first step to reality is to recognize that militant racists are there.. black militant racists and white militant racists. They are not interested in dialogue and won't respond to love.. so I will rebuke them and keep my distance.
10. I will keep asking "So What" to the surface efforts that many make in "Combating" racism. The flag in South Carolina no longer flies above the capital.. The question is SO WHAT? It's symbolism. I will no longer buy into anything that is meaningless and pure symbolism. We have too much of that already. The lack of net effect only frustrates people.
11. I will resist efforts to apply leaky band aids to a festering scab picked by those who profit from keeping the open sore of racism from healing. We were better ten years ago. There are answers but they aren't easy or quick. The whole economy of creating an equal and open society means all people have to adjust. It must not be a one way street. It won't be instant.
12. I will not allow the fact that I am who I am cause me pain and guilt. I understand there are inequities. I can't do much about that. I can't make excuses. I won't make excuses. I will only provide the reality that people oppressed by the devil do dumb things. I can't repent of the DNA that made me white, and when that translates into white privilege my acknowledging that fact does nothing to further the argument.
In the end, I can only be me. I can't allow those who would make me inert out of being white to disallow any effort I might make in combating racism. I think we could all benefit by doing these things. As a white man who lives in these situations, I can think of no fruitful way I can combat the depth of racism in America other than by these 12 principles. If you have suggestions.. I'll listen.. But it must line up with the ones already expressed.
There are thing however I can do.. and will:
1. I will not be in the presence of out and out racists. Won't give quarter even in private to those who express such things. I will walk away from such conversation. I won't sanction racist attitudes when I see or hear them.
2. I will not be guilted into any action or endorsement that requires me to feel guilty about being me. I will grace the same offer to anyone and everyone. I will not allow a demon of guilt to possess me.
3. I will point out obvious forms of racial abuse, racial prejudice, racial misuse when I see it. Shaming is a clear way to kill racist action.
4. I will not leap on to every bandwagon that goes by disguising itself as racism or anti racism. Most of those are smoke and mirrors. Not everything that is called racism is. Some is just foolishness. Any effort to use money to try to level the inequity will be resisted. It's a band aid to impoverish more and helps no one.
5. I will be intentional in developing deeper genuine relationships with men and women with skin color different from mine. People who I love and who can love me. I have a start here, but love conquers sin and racism. That will be real when I can be real. Laugh, poke fun, cry with, tease, love, argue, forgive and treat them as I would my flesh and blood brother... and that can be brutal without the fear that it might be taken wrong.
6. I will not allow anger and disgust to put me off. I will hear, not agree, and try to help find real truth. Truth always lines up with reality. Facts are subjective and may not. Truth will be my focus. Truth sets people free.. and that's the goal.
7. I will face down blatant lies whenever I see them, those from the racists and those from those who are driven by trying to use racism as a reason for despair. The best thing I can do is to break the chains of lies that keep people in bondage.
8. I will expose the role indignation has in revealing guilt. Guilty people are always at first indignant. Racists and race hustler use indignation to try to keep people in bondage. I will be one who sets people free. Indignation will not be honored.
9. I will rebuke militant racists of all stripes. The first step to reality is to recognize that militant racists are there.. black militant racists and white militant racists. They are not interested in dialogue and won't respond to love.. so I will rebuke them and keep my distance.
10. I will keep asking "So What" to the surface efforts that many make in "Combating" racism. The flag in South Carolina no longer flies above the capital.. The question is SO WHAT? It's symbolism. I will no longer buy into anything that is meaningless and pure symbolism. We have too much of that already. The lack of net effect only frustrates people.
11. I will resist efforts to apply leaky band aids to a festering scab picked by those who profit from keeping the open sore of racism from healing. We were better ten years ago. There are answers but they aren't easy or quick. The whole economy of creating an equal and open society means all people have to adjust. It must not be a one way street. It won't be instant.
12. I will not allow the fact that I am who I am cause me pain and guilt. I understand there are inequities. I can't do much about that. I can't make excuses. I won't make excuses. I will only provide the reality that people oppressed by the devil do dumb things. I can't repent of the DNA that made me white, and when that translates into white privilege my acknowledging that fact does nothing to further the argument.
In the end, I can only be me. I can't allow those who would make me inert out of being white to disallow any effort I might make in combating racism. I think we could all benefit by doing these things. As a white man who lives in these situations, I can think of no fruitful way I can combat the depth of racism in America other than by these 12 principles. If you have suggestions.. I'll listen.. But it must line up with the ones already expressed.
Hey Ferguson. Hey Baltimore. This is South Carolina. This is how we do it. We are family. No riots. No looting. Nobody acting like animals.
What do you see here? Multi-racial. Multi-ethnic. All colors. All races. Banding together to defeat evil.
No Obama. No Sharpton. We don't need Obama's politicizing attitude. We
don't need Sharpton's divisive presence. Both of you, STAY AWAY!
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