I was reminded of the stages of Grief and how most people who are struggling in these times are somewhere in one of these stages.
I have walked this long enough to tell you I am now in acceptance and new joy. It's going to be hard, but it's going to be OK.
Think about the cycle and where you might be. If you are in ministry, where some of your people might be. This loss we have experienced in the last year is as real and as painful as anything we have endured for decades.
Five Stages Of Grief
- Denial and Isolation.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer. - Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it. - Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?" - Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath. - Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
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Thank you so much for acknowledging the grief process with regards to the current economic stress - your validation is certain to help others. As a whole health coach, I am seeing this more and more frequently. It's crucial that grievers are able to get out of the blame game and forgive themselves and others.
If you'd like an additional resource to offer people going through this grieving process, please feel free to pass along this complimentary eBook - www.lemonadenetwork.com.
Danny Fitzpatrick, Whole Health Coach
Co-Author of "Emotional Stimulus Package: Your Guide to Re-creating the American Dream"
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