Friday, September 04, 2009

Victimized or Victim - Pitiful or Pitiable

In ministry I run into people all the time who are victims or are pitiful. They have chosen to be one. They are stuck in their pain and suffering and are not dealing with it well.

I met one such yesterday. She is in a difficult situation. It's mad worse by the fact that her attitude is one of Poor Me. She has been abused.

She is Pitiful.

She is a Victim.

They are roles she plays well. I feel sorry for her. I will do all I can to help her. BUT, she is a mess and unless she gets past this mental block she will NOT make it. She will in fact die. Pitiful and a Victim.

She has been Victimized. She is to be pitied. Therefore she is pitiable.

BUT that is not the real problem. You or I can be victimized but not remain a victim. We can go into a pitiable state but not become pitiful.

What she thinks about all day long is who she has become. A victim. Pitiful.

And that is sad.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

i do have to give praise on the new look and lay out, especially regarding the text size and color of the entries versus text and color of titles. it makes browsing through the drivel and nonsense a lot easier when i'm looking for a laugh or a quick criticism to make.

keep this one for a while. good job.

Anonymous said...

This is like the story of the man who had been an invalid for 38 years. When Jesus asked the invalid if he wanted to get well the invalid went in to details about the pool and the crowds and why he couldn't get into the healing waters.
I once knew a woman who was in this condition and even though Jesus asked her if she wanted to be healed, she instead wanted Jesus to help her get better government support.